Maurice Lamm

Counting the Twelve Months... A Summary of the Basic Observances...

Laws and Observances of the 30-Day Sheloshim Mourning Period... How the Sheloshim is Calculated... Haircutting... New Clothes... Attending Parties... Getting Married... Shiva and Sheloshim during Purim and Chanukah...

Calculating the End of Shiva... "A portion of the day is as a full day"... Walking Together...

For a clearer and deeper understanding of the dynamics of grief, the visitor should be familiar with the results of a psychological study of bereavement...

The Mitzvah to Visit the Mourner... The Purpose of the Shiva Condolence Call... When to Pay the Shiva Call... Etiquette at the House of Mourning... The Traditional Words of Condolence... Behavior During the Condolence Call...

The Prohibition to Study Torah During Shiva

The prohibition of marital relations during the Shiva

The principle of avoiding pleasure during mourning also applies to the prohibition of laundering, or wearing freshly laundered clothes during shiva and sheloshim, while continuing to exercise normal standards of hygienic care and personal dignity...

Bathing for Pleasure... Cleanliness vs. Confort... The Use of Cosmetics... Haircutting & Nail Trimming...

With the shocking disruption of normal life caused by a death in the family, the standard forms of social interaction, its niceties and graces and minutiae of etiquette, are without significance....